The Child Makes the Parent: Our Crucial Role

Our crucial role: co-creating with God – our destiny as divine beings

Part 4 of message from Rev. Demian Dunkley, president of the Family Federation of North America, transcribed from a video that is part of a series of lectures titled “Discourse on True Mother‘s Revelations”, posted on the education site of the Family Federation of the USA February 2025

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In other words, God‘s idea was to give birth to a man and woman who would resemble him. And God’s dream was to get to the point where those two people could become one. And God‘s been waiting for all of human history to experience that. God is longing for that moment. Right?

Another term that is used to describe this status is “only-begotten” – only-begotten son or only-begotten daughter. Honestly, we don’t need to get too hung up on these terms.

It’s just words that are used to try and convey a specific meaning. But many times, we get caught up with words because words might mean one thing to ten different people. Ten different things, right?

And so when Mother says “only begotten daughter”, or when we’re to understand the essence of “only begotten daughter”, “only begotten son”, this is what it means: It means a son or a daughter, the first son or first daughter that have fully resembled God‘s male characteristics or female characteristics, right? Essentially, it means the first man or first woman who are born by God‘s will and mature their divine characteristics by keeping God‘s commandment.

They are the first male and first female representatives of God‘s image on earth because they have established that level of maturity that is in alignment with God‘s heart. That means that God is dwelling within them. They are one with God because their spirit is not an ugly spirit that might leave no space for God’s essence, but it is a divine spirit. They are human beings with a divine spirit. We were created, and that’s our original destiny – to be people of divine nature with a divine spirit. Not just the holy people fasting for months up in the mountains, right? All of us, don’t we want that? Yes, I want it. I want it.

And I’m so grateful to the truth that has been revealed through the True Parents, for us to understand it much more simply.

Here’s another thing: This man and woman would then form a family. This is huge! This only begotten son, only begotten daughter, or this true son and true daughter, would come together in marriage, blessed in marriage to become a family, and then would become the True Parents, giving birth to God’s lineage, giving birth to humanity.

Not fallen humanity, not struggling humanity, not warring humanity, not an ignorant humanity that’s constantly in conflict with itself, ever afraid of its future, such that it’s bent on stealing from one another, harming one another, territorialism, grappling for what you think you need for yourself.

No, that was never supposed to be the world that God wanted us to create. We created that world.

But we’re looking at what was the blueprint for the ideal. What was God’s dream? What are the principles of God’s essence and God’s dream?

This is it: Man and woman were to form a family as True Parents, not as false parents, but as True Parents, meaning parents that resemble God‘s divine nature.

In this sense, the first True Parents are one and only. There would only be one beginning – True Parents of all humanity.

And they would give birth to humanity. Children born out of this love would be God‘s children. It would be the establishment of God’s lineage on earth. And they wouldn’t need to watch videos and listen to lectures to understand their identity and value. Okay? That’s the original dream of God. If you agree, then say, “Amen!” Say, “Aju!” Say, “Hallelujah!” That’s the truth.

The fundamental idea here, though, is that it is the child that makes the parent. It’s often not expressed this way, but this is the way I like to express it. We as children have a responsibility and it is the child that makes the parent in a sense, right?

Of course, God created us. But when we get to that point of maturing our character, that part that we have taken responsibility for, that part that we can claim as our co-creatorship, and standing on that level, that platform as resembling God‘s nature, we can say,

“I am God‘s son; I am God’s daughter!”

And when God hears that, when God sees that, God can then boast to all of his friends at the party,

“I, me, I created this. My children, right? I am well pleased. These are my children!”

Without heavenly children, there is no Heavenly Parent. You could say there is a Creator, but without heavenly children, there is no Heavenly Parent. In that sense, even though God is great and almighty, God risked a lot to give us human beings that responsibility to co-create with God, not only to co-create our own status, but such that co-creating our own status would actually change God‘s status. Do you believe that?

Continued in part 5.

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Featured image above: It’s the child that makes the parent. Photo: Liane Metzler on Unsplash

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